How do you decide who we want to be friends with? First let’s understand what a friend is and how we become friends with someone. Dictionary.com defines a friend as “a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard”. Basically someone in which we care for, or helps us with something. I believe one of our biggest problems is forgetting the definition of “friend”. Often times we find ourselves trapped in an unhealthy paradox that we call a “friendship”. Learning the difference between this trap and a rewarding relationship could become the difference between your happiness and your despair.
The first indicator that a friend will not be loyal to you, is if they are not loyal to their other friends. This seems obvious, but a lot of times we miss it or ignore it. So if a friend speaks of their other friends in an ill way to you, who do you think they’re talking about the same way to their other friends. Ding ding ding, you got it! The answer is you. Pay very close attention to when a friend is hating on someone else because you could be their next subject of hate. Nextly, notice who has your back when you may not have a popular opinion. In other words, who will stand next to you when you’re standing alone?
Imagine finding yourself stranded with no car, and no money an hour away from your home. Scary situation right? Well chances are that you’ll end up in a similar situation sometime in your life. Who would you be able to call that you know would drop what they are doing to come pick you up no matter where you are. Someone that wouldn’t ask, “what’s in it for me?” That is a true friend. I would strongly recommend dropping anyone that would not do this for you without hesitation. Now don’t get my words twisted. I am not saying that you should become a recluse and shut everyone out, but you should just be careful who you hold close to you. You should always be the most kind, helpful person you can be to everyone because you never know when you may need them.
Find out who your friends are and weed everyone else out.